We made it! We’re through the holidays and settling into 2022. The “new year new you” craze is making its way through the world with resolutions, words, mantras, vision boards, all the things. 2022 is going to be the BEST YEAR EVER! If you’re feeling anything like me, you’re not having it.
I heard the term “languishing” last week and after the lightbulb went off, I remembered that this term became buzzworthy as the No. 1 New York Times article in 2021. If you missed it, I drill the concept down a bit here and, more importantly, recommend three actions you can take to remedy the feeling.
Quite simply, languishing can be defined as “feeling blah.” Yup. It’s that simple. If your right brain prefers more on this, languishing is “a sense of stagnation and emptiness. It feels as if you’re muddling through your days, looking at your life through a foggy windshield.”
BINGO! Finally, I can put a name on how I’ve been feeling these days.
Here’s what languishing looks like for me:
- A purposeful slowdown during the holidays has turned into a struggle to get back into my routine.
- A major new coaching initiative ready to go and I’m not quite pulling the trigger — no idea why.
- My sleep schedule is off, and there’s not much I value more than sleep.
- My business planning flipcharts (yes, I have flipcharts at home) are hanging on my walls and I feel they’re judging me daily as I haven’t taken significant action. Nothing.
- I’m managing to miss deadlines when usually I block in plenty of buffer time.
Depressing, isn’t it? The more I became aware of this phenomenon and recognized that I’m not just in fact a total loser, the more I heard others mentioning the same thing. Call it what you will — no energy, lack of motivation, increased anxiety, the winter blues; this feeling is unfamiliar, and for us overachievers, it’s very unnerving.
I can’t take much more of this, so here are three things I’m doing right now to get myself back on track. They appear to be working (this article was submitted before deadline!) so I recommend you give at least one of them a try:
1. Name it. Own it. Share it.
As a motivational speaker and executive coach, I hesitate to admit that I too am languishing. I’m the one who is supposed to be helping everyone else! What about my brand? I’m superwoman! I was just profiled in Thrive Global Magazine! I’m a BOSS! I’m the one who gets people on track, so I cannot go off track! I’ve recently admitted that I’m all of these things and I’m also human. If there’s one silver lining to the collective angst we’ve experienced these past two years, it’s that people are being vulnerable and asking for help. Just admitting that I’m not feeling like I’m hitting it on all cylinders is a huge relief.
2. Uninterrupted time to JUST DO IT.
And by IT I mean whatever I want. I had a speaking engagement on the other coast cancel this past week and I protected that time for me. No agenda, no to-do, just time for me to use as I see fit. I guarded that time (hello, boundaries!) with my life. I used one day to bang out work, the other day I caught up on personal errands, and the third day I slept late and took it slow.
3. Eat the frog.
You may have heard this expression before, and it’s a very powerful tool. The concept is how you approach your day and it involves tackling the biggest or most stress-inducing project or task first thing in the morning. For me, this is my digital course, which is launching in just three weeks. It’s a massive undertaking, and this week I’ve broken down the project plan and am tackling the thing I want to do least first thing in the morning. In doing so, I’m already feeling back in the swing and making slow but steady progress.
I wish there was a silver bullet to get back on track — I’ve tried them all. A good night’s sleep, green juice, meditation, all of these are wonderful self-care rituals which make us feel better, but self-care isn’t the same as action.
Daily, consistent action steps are what got me through this moment in time and feeling like me again.
I wish the same for you!